I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.

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If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.

It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.

I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70+ year old guys.

I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.

It’s as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life.

I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.

The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!

In other words, knowingly sends me matches that are probably not realistic for me to pursue.

When I have emailed some of those guys, I never hear back.