Aziz Ansari, who is among the most popular stand-up comedians in the country, met me for lunch at Cherche Midi, on the Bowery, New York, looking like a hip, surprised sprite. Ansari famously went from playing a delusional Lothario on to having 5.6 million Twitter followers and selling out Madison Square Garden twice with his one-man show. Falling in love is the eternal mystery, Aziz Ansari agrees, and, for good and bad, till death do us part, the Digital Age is here to help.

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We were meeting to discuss his first book, (for which he received a reported $3.5 million advance), written with the sociologist Eric Klinenberg and published this month by Penguin Press. “It’s easier to send a text to split up with someone than to have a conversation and, you know, with the ramifications.

You can hang out with a few and see if there’s a connection.” E. Forster’s fabled 1910 epigraph, “Only connect,” has been transformed into a frantic Web search not only for relationships or marriage (or sex) but also for perfect love. He writes in that technology has turned his generation into “the rudest, flakiest people ever.” “I think our cell phones have given us the tools to be rude,” he explained (though he remains characteristically polite).

What’s weird is that all the norms are changing so fast. Just because you have 70 matches—don’t try to hang out with all 70.

I’m thrilled to have been chosen as one of the 10 Best Dating Divas by Dating Advice, a website featuring articles from dating experts. Little dings are commonplace, but we have a luster, mixed with the wisdom of age, that is much more appealing that a new shiny piece of cheaply fabricated material.

There is a ‘senior’ category of dating mixed in among Gay/Lesbian, online dating, dating tips for men and tips for women. And, in the upcoming weeks I’ll be writing a guest post for the site. Give me a classy antique made of solid wood any day.

Writing useful and mainstream advice for the over 50 dating woman and man isn’t as easy as I thought it would be when I started The Diva of Dating blog. Older men and women are more likely to observe the convention of “good manners”.Most of what we see in the press is geared to a younger set. We understand courtesy and good hospitality in a way that the younger generation may see as outdated and often unnecessary.The basics of dating remain the same, but we have our own unique needs and, occasionally, challenges. We tend to be more emotionally stable and secure in our sense of self. We come with slightly worn bodies—a beauty much like the patina on a much-loved piece of furniture.We are still working, striving to make a meaningful life and pursuing our careers. We have pretty much figured out who we are and our place in the world.Hopefully we’ve gone through our midlife crisis, if it is to be, and we are comfortable in our own skins. Our experiences have informed us about what works and what doesn’t.